Book Title : Do Epic Shit
Author : Ankur Warikoo
One of the common emotion that is seen, when we or others make mistake is “Oh ! Shit”. The tonality and loudness might depend upon the gravity of the mistake. In the book, Do Epic Shit, the author narrates the journey of failures he had in his life. He also reflects on the lessons he has learned the hard way, help us be to be aware of those situations.
Success:
How we think of our problems is how the world will think of our problems. If we exaggerate our problems, so will the world. If we are happy despite our problems, the world will help us get happier. While we (almost always) don’t choose our problems, we can always choose how to respond. When we rule ourselves, we can never be ruled by our problems. The biggest misconception people have is that they are the odd one out and everyone else is sorted!
Success means different things to different people. You have to give your definition of success and stay true to that. Don’t let the world define your rules for success and failure. Success is a relationship you have with yourself.
Luck happens to those who make things happen. Every day and every moment is an opportunity for you to let your actions decide your luck. Luck is the result of your hard work. Neither success nor failure matters. What matters is what you become through that process.
Ninety-nine per cent of people want to be led. They want to be told what to do, and then they will go on to do their best. They want to be led. Not managed.
Don’t measure how valuable you are by the way you are treated. The world is going to treat you how it wishes to treat you. You don’t control that. You only get to choose who you listen to. If you measure your worth by those who don’t treat you well, you are choosing to do so. There is someone out there who values you. Starting with your own self. Whatever you are feeling today will fade away. That thing you imagine is the worst thing ever? When it happens, it will feel like that. You will get up every day and it will be the first thing you will think of. Until one day, when it won’t be! No matter how happy you are, how sad you are, you are not going to remember how happy or sad you were tomorrow. Our emotions and feelings are temporary. We think of them as permanent. What you think is the worst thing in your life isn’t the worst thing.
As you grow professionally, it is not what you know but how you deal with people that determines our success.
Habits:
Curiosity has created more opportunities than hard work ever will.
Targets are the enemy of habits. Don’t set targets. Set habits! Setting targets instead of habits makes us forget the kind of person we want to become.
Habits hire us forever and take us higher, whereas targets tame us and leave us clueless after we achieve them.
Reading books will not make you smart. Watching motivational videos will not make you driven. Writing will not make your thoughts clearer. We are not shaped by these things. We are shaped by the stories we tell ourselves. Reading books isn’t the answer. The answer is what we take away from them. Writing isn’t the answer to clarity. The answer lies in whether we write to get more at peace or whether we write to seek validation. Motivational videos certainly aren’t the answer (even though I make a bunch every week). The video we turn our life into after watching those videos is the answer. Nothing changes until we change what lives between our two ears. We know others through their actions. We know ourselves through our thoughts.
Saying no to everything else and sleeping on time – is the greatest secret sauce of self-love.
Happiness is simply a result of slaying your comfort, so you always stay comfortable staying out of your comfort zone. No step is small, as long as it is headed in the direction of where we want to go.
Follow the right set of people on social media and you’ll see more opportunities. You become like the people you spend the most time with- both online and offline.
Awareness :
Most of the decisions in life are not made because of confidence in the decision. They were made because of awareness of the situations.
Being aware and mindful of every action you take is a vital skill. Although it’s simple, most people don’t exercise it.
Emotional debt has killed more people than financial debt ever will. The debt of never saying ‘I love you’ to your parents. The debt of never apologizing to the friend who was always there for you. The debt of never living for your happiness, because you were busy pleasing others. Money goes and comes. We might be in a position to pay those debts off one day. However, the emotional debt that piles on, will continue to kill us within every single day we live!
The real problem was never the real problem. The real problem was the compound interest of complaining.
Entrepreneurship:
Capability is rarely the question mark in life. It is always the intent. No one lacks talent. People are best at what they do. Or they know how to figure it out. What people lack is intent. Lack of intent because they don’t like the leader. Lack of intent because they are not driven. Lack of intent because they don’t care. Lack of intent because they are not acknowledged. Lack of intent because they work for a person not for a larger good. When people are driven to bring their right intent to the table, they are the first ones to surprise themselves with their capabilities.
Entrepreneurship is not a profession, it’s a state of mind.
Money:
Money buys freedom. Freedom is a privilege. That freedom helps you make wiser choices.
Relationship:
Holding a grudge against someone requires a lot of effort. Think of all the wasted time spent being mad at someone. Someone broke you into pieces. And now you have decided to trade your peace for seeking revenge. When we hold a grudge against someone, we do the same thing they did to us: hurt us. They hurt us once. We hurt ourselves 100x by repeating it in our head.
Every problem in this world can be traced back to a point of miscommunication.
Ego is a bubble. Instead of bursting it and seeing what all lies outside, we invest most of our energy protecting it.
